Times flies

Time flies

That's right it's fall! Fall officially started this Sunday, September 22. Can you believe it? Not to mention, it's also Friday! Seriously, time really does fly. My question is, where does it go?

When I was younger, I would always  hear "make good use of your time", or "don't wish for time to go faster", "don't wish to grow up faster", "cherish each day". Of course, I was young so all these things just sounded like adults being adults, so I never really took the time to listen to these comments and really understand them. Now, as I've gotten older, many of those comments make sense.

When you're  13 you're ready to be 16. When you're 16 you're ready to be 18. Then it's 18 ready for 21.  21 and you start thinking that you don't want to grow up and look old. You hit 30 and it somewhat freaks you out. 35 and you' re 5 years closer to 40. 40 and now you are considered over the hill. 50, and you ask "where did the time go?". 55, and you're starting to take more medicine to help your body regulate itself because you're no longer able to bounce back from things like you did in your 20s. 60, and your inner monologue is repeating "wow". By your 70s, your closest friend is your doctor or doctors. 80s, your body starts to become stubborn and only allows you to move at its convenience. 90s, well, by 90, you deserve a pat on the back and a party- you did it!

So see, time flies. It really does. Everyone has heard also, that when you want time to go slow it speeds up. When time goes fast, you need it to slow down. Very clever "time" is. (that's an awkward sentence...instead, it should say, Time is very clever. It's tricky, it is one step ahead, and always full of surprises. However that isn't necessarily a bad thing.

The Rolling Stones said it best "time, it's on my side". By wishing and wanting, we've already sort of set ourselves up for a kind of expectation that will probably lead to a let down, rather then just allowing time to do its thing and run it's (its) course. I feel it's what we do with the time we have that is important. You know, by making the most of it. Yes, "cherishing it" and enjoying every minute of it. That is how we make long lasting memories. Good or bad. Remember, you have to take the good with the bad and vice versa.

To go back to the beginning, like I said, it's fall. It seems as if I was just here a year ago-which is true. However there have been significant changes and developments. Perhaps there are ways to build on that even more. Yeah, I said it!

What you want to do with your time is completely up to you. Just know though it can change its course in the blink of an eye. So use it to YOUR greatest advantage.

Nicole

 

Note to self....

Note to self.... I should really start proof reading before I post

Nicole

I thought I might give you guys a little food for thought today. Enjoy

 

Nicole

Oh, the Places You'll Go!

by

Dr. Seuss

Congratulations!
Today is your day.
You're off to Great Places!
You're off and away!

You have brains in your head.
You have feet in your shoes.
You can steer yourself
any direction you choose.
You're on your own. And you know what you know.
And YOU are the guy who'll decide where to go.

You'll look up and down streets. Look 'em over with care.
About some you will say, "I don't choose to go there."
With your head full of brains and your shoes full of feet,
you're too smart to go down any not-so-good street.

And you may not find any
you'll want to go down.
In that case, of course,
you'll head straight out of town.

It's opener there
in the wide open air.

Out there things can happen
and frequently do
to people as brainy
and footsy as you.

And then things start to happen,
don't worry. Don't stew.
Just go right along.
You'll start happening too.

OH!
THE PLACES YOU'LL GO!

You'll be on y our way up!
You'll be seeing great sights!
You'll join the high fliers
who soar to high heights.

You won't lag behind, because you'll have the speed.
You'll pass the whole gang and you'll soon take the lead.
Wherever you fly, you'll be best of the best.
Wherever you go, you will top all the rest.

Except when you don't.
Because, sometimes, you won't.

I'm sorry to say so
but, sadly, it's true
that Bang-ups
and Hang-ups
can happen to you.

You can get all hung up
in a prickle-ly perch.
And your gang will fly on.
You'll be left in a Lurch.

You'll come down from the Lurch
with an unpleasant bump.
And the chances are, then,
that you'll be in a Slump.

And when you're in a Slump,
you're not in for much fun.
Un-slumping yourself
is not easily done.

You will come to a place where the streets are not marked.
Some windows are lighted. But mostly they're darked.
A place you could sprain both your elbow and chin!
Do you dare to stay out? Do you dare to go in?
How much can you lose? How much can you win?

And IF you go in, should you turn left or right...
or right-and-three-quarters? Or, maybe, not quite?
Or go around back and sneak in from behind?
Simple it's not, I'm afraid you will find,
for a mind-maker-upper to make up his mind.

You can get so confused
that you'll start in to race
down long wiggled roads at a break-necking pace
and grind on for miles cross weirdish wild space,
headed, I fear, toward a most useless place.
The Waiting Place...

...for people just waiting.
Waiting for a train to go
or a bus to come, or a plane to go
or the mail to come, or the rain to go
or the phone to ring, or the snow to snow
or the waiting around for a Yes or No
or waiting for their hair to grow.
Everyone is just waiting.

Waiting for the fish to bite
or waiting for the wind to fly a kite
or waiting around for Friday night
or waiting, perhaps, for their Uncle Jake
or a pot to boil, or a Better Break
or a string of pearls, or a pair of pants
or a wig with curls, or Another Chance.
Everyone is just waiting.

NO!
That's not for you!

Somehow you'll escape
all that waiting and staying
You'll find the bright places
where Boom Bands are playing.

With banner flip-flapping,
once more you'll ride high!
Ready for anything under the sky.
Ready because you're that kind of a guy!

Oh, the places you'll go! There is fun to be done!
There are points to be scored. There are games to be won.
And the magical things you can do with that ball
will make you the winning-est winner of all.
Fame! You'll be as famous as famous can be,
with the whole wide world watching you win on TV.

Except when they don't
Because, sometimes they won't.

I'm afraid that some times
you'll play lonely games too.
Games you can't win
'cause you'll play against you.

All Alone!
Whether you like it or not,
Alone will be something
you'll be quite a lot.

And when you're alone, there's a very good chance
you'll meet things that scare you right out of your pants.
There are some, down the road between hither and yon,
that can scare you so much you won't want to go on.

But on you will go
though the weather be foul.
On you will go
though your enemies prowl.
On you will go
though the Hakken-Kraks howl.
Onward up many
a frightening creek,
though your arms may get sore
and your sneakers may leak.

On and on you will hike,
And I know you'll hike far
and face up to your problems
whatever they are.

You'll get mixed up, of course,
as you already know.
You'll get mixed up
with many strange birds as you go.
So be sure when you step.
Step with care and great tact
and remember that Life's
a Great Balancing Act.
Just never foget to be dexterous and deft.
And never mix up your right foot with your left.

And will you succeed?
Yes! You will, indeed!
(98 and 3/4 percent guaranteed.)

KID, YOU'LL MOVE MOUNTAINS!

So...
be your name Buxbaum or Bixby or Bray
or Mordecai Ali Van Allen O'Shea,
You're off the Great Places!
Today is your day!
Your mountain is waiting.
So...get on your way!

It's raining....

Today, in my neck of the woods it's suppose to be raining. Which is not necessarily a bad thing. Check out the videos below, you'll see what I mean. Aside from that , I hope YOU have a GREAT day today!

Gene Kelly - "Singing in the Rain"

Rihanna feat. Jay-Z - “Umbrella”

 Luke Bryan - “Rain is a Good Thing”

 

Garbage - “Only Happy When It Rains”

Creedence Clearwater Revival - “Have You Ever Seen the Rain?”

Barbra Streisand - “Don't Rain on My Parade” from “Funny Girl”

I hope this shows you that rain isn't necessarily a bad thing, according to Luke Bryan, "it's a good thing". 

Nicole

Writer's block

Not gonna lie, in the past few days, I haven't written simply due to the fact that Ive hit somewhat of a writers block. I want to make sure that everything I write is honest and sincere. You guys reading this blog are pretty smart and can tell if Im being honest or just putting words down just to put words down. Therefore, I want what I write to be real.

It would be cool, if everything I wrote was something so profound and amazing, and maybe to some it is. For me, what I write to you is what I write, and I only hope it does it's job. I know Im not alone when it comes to this subject, being stumped. In life, I guess we have different versions of "writers block". For example, we can get stumped as in, what's our "next move", or we don't know "where to go next" or "now what?".

Everybody at some point has been clueless on what or how they're going to do something. However, when these moments occur, the main thing is to know that we won't stay in this "stumped" state forever. It's only temporary. Just that, is great motivation to at least start something and feel that hopeful, it wakes up something inside you, and helps lead you towards the road of getting out of your "writers block" or "un-stumped" state.

By just writing what I wrote above is slowly helping me out of my "writers block". It's true. Though this message today is not exactly the longest, I leave you with this:

Perfect....no such thing......and that's ok

PERFECT

What is perfect? I know the definition, I have an idea of what it is, but what exactly does perfect mean to you?

I have struggled with this before. Though, I didn't really handle the idea of perfect in a good way. I've written about my life before. You've read my blog, so I feel we have a good repor. I can talk to you.

After my accident, I realized that the perfect structure I had put together of where my life was going was now altered. The structure I consciously and unconsciously  constructed for my life was shattered in minutes. Years of prepping was what now seemed to be for nothing.

So the "perfect" structure I had strategically mastered for myself was gone. The question now was, "what to do".

Yes, I tried and hung on to every inch of positivity I had, and well..... You guys see the result. However, I can't lie to you guys. Unbeknownst to the outside world and even myself, I thought I could find my "perfect" in a bottle. In other words, I could not admit this to myself but I had fallen in a slight state of denial. And for me, what better way to help wash away any denial and gain my "perfect" then finding it while drinking.

And that's what I did. I drank. It's true. The whole year after my accident I drank a lot. Of course in the back of my head I'm thinking, "I'm all good". Yeah....not so much. Again, I was, at the time, assuming by drinking, I could regain my idea of "perfect". Well I'm here to tell you, drinking didn't help me find my "perfect". It just pushed any idea I had of it further away.

The further away my "perfect" moved, the more I began to realize that I wasn't going to find it in the state I was in,  and, though I had my "perfect" laid out for myself before hand, there was no way I was getting it back the way it was. My life was altered now remember? And did it matter? I mean, what really is "perfect"?

So it dawned on me, there really is no such thing as perfect. There is however, a way for you to write your own definition of "perfect" for your life. "Perfect" meaning, admitting to yourself that you'll go through ups and downs, hit really good times and also hard times, enjoying each day, and knowing whatever comes your way, you'll handle and keep moving on. Time will also play a factor. You'll tell yourself that time can be your best friend but also your worst enemy and yet, it will never slow you down. That for me, is my "perfect". Just knowing that every day is a toss up and not caring. Instead, taking each day as it comes and making/doing the best for each.

My point is, it's hard putting so much pressure on this idea of "perfect" for yourself. Putting that much energy and expectation on your life and the way things have to happen around you can eventually consume you. We can put so much energy into our relationships, friendships, unexpected occurrences, etc, on what needs to be "perfect", that when our expectations are not met, and the outcome isn't to our liking, we crumble.

Rather then that happening, ease up on yourself a little. The best thing about finding our "perfect" is when we set forth to do the very best for ourselves and then "perfect" moments and situations furthering our lives and who we are start to unexpectedly, fall into our laps. I know this because Ive experienced this for myself and also witnessed it with others around me.

"Perfect" can to a degree exist. Not the way it's written in the dictionary but how you play it out in your life. Taking the good, the bad, and everything in between.

Last year, I decided to take the next huge step in my life and find my "perfect". I was close to it yet still hadn't really declared it for my life completely. So I did. I can honestly say that now, I am on the road to my "perfect". There have been many bumps I've hit, but it is all a part of my "perfect" life.

I dare you to find your "perfect" expecting nothing. Only knowing that you'll be the one crossing the finish line with a smile.

Nicole

Reflecting back

Hello all!

So it's Monday. The beginning of another week and another set of unknown adventures ahead. Though, if you're feeling a little sluggish, I do understand. Sometimes Mondays aren't the easiest days to just hit the ground running. It takes a minute. But believe you me, once you get going, then you're going and ready to tackle the week.

On a side note, before the week really starts moving I'd like to just reflect back on last week as sort of  of a spring board for this week. I hit on this subject last week and have hit on this subject in the past- but the power of KINDNESS, is a beautiful thing.

You can't tell me that when someone does something nice for you just because, that you don't appreciate it. Or when you see somebody do something to help someone else in need, that it strikes a cord.  Kindness is something that feels good to receive and a great thing to spread. It's one of the few things that connects us all.

As I'm sure you've figured out, I dig YouTube videos, and I like sharing. So therefore, I've found some examples, of what I think,  are awesome videos that show how wonderful and amazing it is when you display kindness.

I hope on this Monday, the beginning of the week, this can help you out with jump start for the days to follow. Hope you enjoy :)

Nicole